I'm Oliver Webber, here with my research assistant, Kaydence Ribetnauer. You may not be able to see us because we're tucked in between these blades of grass, waiting for our next meal to fly in and land on one of them. To nourish our bodies and souls, we ponder leaves. We encourage contemplation... especially in regard to issues that will have to be handled when we become worm grub. We hope to motivate others to thoughtfully cultivate preferences and decisions while still vigorously leaping around. We recommend croaking... using voices to broadcast wishes before it's too late to have a voice in this matter. Other than a sumptuous supply of insects, this is assuredly the most "toad-ally" considerate gift we could leave for our life companions! Don't you agree? We invite you to get your feet wet by joining our pond of pondering pre-planners. Let's make croaking meaningful!

Tuesday, May 28, 2013

Wake Memorial Park QR CODED PLATES

Fly'Bye Lady Visit In NORTH CAROLINA


Administrators of the Wake Memorial Park are embracing technology, not only through the use of GIS mapping, but also by offering QR (quick response) code mobile access to information and expressions relative to a decedent. Through an affiliation with a hosting company, Making Everlasting Memories, LLC, online data storage is maintained for immediate access via a smartphone that interprets a QR code on a small tile.  Two styles are available, either a one-inch-square plate made of ceramic (or porcelain, depending upon the manufacturer) or a slightly larger version in bronze; one can be chosen that blends best with the surface material to which it will be affixed. 

These small, coded plates represent a versatile approach to memorializing, as they can be attached to any items intended to serve as memorabilia. Cemeteries are partnering with companies that provide this service, particularly for the purpose of utilizing tiles attached to headstones and markers.  But clients may choose alternative applications, such as on urns and other pieces, or on keepsakes possibly given to guests at a service.  Codes may also be printed on programs, guest registers, or other paper products.  

Once a family has compiled material, the site can be activated for scanning and public online viewing.  Depending on the selected plan (basic, enhanced, or complete), a wide range of options for customized content includes one or more photos, biographical details, a video, an obituary, a map, links to social networking sites, email notifications, and even a guest book for written messages.  Additional elements, including 500 photos, can be incorporated through purchase of the most inclusive plan.  Plans may vary according to the needs of particular funeral homes that offer them. 

So, thanks to this technology, beyond recognition of a traditional or symbolic item to trigger thoughts of a decedent, one can instantly be connected to his or her distinct persona through this type of data stimulation.  Personalized books with similar content also are available. 

Tuesday, May 21, 2013


Fly'Bye Lady Visit In North Carolina


The multi-variant expanse of the fifty-five-acre Sarah P. Duke Gardens on the campus of Duke University has been an acclaimed attraction for many years.  However, many folks may not know about the two-acre Memorial Garden that is a part of it.  Here, for a substantial contribution ($25,000) designated for an endowment fund to maintain the school’s botanical treasure, Duke alumni, others affiliated with the university, and local community members can have their cremated remains either buried or scattered.

The decedent’s name and birth date are inscribed on one of about 700 limestone markers that delineate a winding pathway in this section of the garden that features azaleas, camellias, and other plants that thrive in shade.  Each burial site is in close proximity to the correlating stone.   

A Duke garden employee (a supervisor or curator) typically handles the burial, placing either uncontained remains or a biodegradable urn in a hole that has been dug as close to a flower or bush as possible.  This may take place during a memorial service on site, while another staff member assures privacy and the avoidance of intrusion by garden visitors.  A trolley transports guests for whom walking is difficult. 


Photos from the “Memorial Garden” page of the Sarah P. Duke Gardens website

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